Marianne Klancke: What will you be when you grow up?
May 22, 2008
For how long have we been asking young people, “So, what are you going to be when you grow up?” When we were in kindergarten, this question brought on giggles and all sorts of inventive and enthusiastic answers. Later on, however, the high school senior is well aware that this is not a casual query and that the answer will set the wheels of cultural expectations and demands in furious motion.
Talk about pressure. Our society is full of it. Can we not think of some other way to ease our youth into the next stage of their lives without being complete hypocrites? Who of us, now in a progressed phase of life, foresaw our current quest while we were at our beginnings? Well, if you did, I am awed by you.
More than likely, most of us have traveled multiple directions of angst and effort to be where we are today. Our wins and failings helped guide us along the way. Even still, we may very well be asking our self, yet one more time, “What do I chose to be when I grow up?”
Can we agree, first of all, that graduates are not the only ones who are discovering themselves and making life choices? Young people do not stand alone before life’s endless palette of possibilities that often appear to be impossible dreams. Looking forward and seeing an unobstructed path to a definitive goal is not the view most of us see at any age.
Secondly, let us say that anything worth doing is worth doing well. Until you grow into your succeeding passions, and I predict you will, maximize the passion you are in. Knowing that no goal of life will be our forever after does not mean that we should act with anything less than full earnest on our current purposeful direction.
There is evidence that “growing up to be what we want to be” may be a lifelong activity. Beside the fact that more than ever people are changing professions and pursuits, they are also challenging themselves to self-discovery and development in the process. Asking what you “will be” is often coupled with an equally profound contemplation, “Who am I?”
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Before you chart your future course, clarify the point from which you are starting. Be conscious of your values, discover what motivates you, witness where you experience energy, inventory what challenges you, and recognize the resources that are staring you in the face. This extensive knowledge creates a solid launching point from which any one or any organization can proceed to action.
The County of Grand is again investigating what it wants to be as it grows up. Recent group discussions in multiple towns have initiated the organized process to revise the county Master Plan. Just like upcoming graduates and perpetual life-pursuers, our county is reviewing the map by which it will direct its growth decisions.
This process has begun at the starting point ” as it should. Participants are examining and polling their community values, strengths, challenges, and opportunities to which further actions can be matched. Make sure your pertinent thoughts will be tabulated by getting on line at http://co.grand.co.us/ or attending the next gatherings.
We know that life-changing planning and action-setting procedures will not be the end all or everlasting. As we, individuals and community, grow and as new circumstances present themselves, we will learn, adjust, and react appropriately. In the meanwhile, however, the decisions and efforts we enact today deserve to be fully considered, structured, and implemented.
Graduates, you are not the only ones examining your future. As a life coach, I am fairly sure you will never be away from the consideration of moving from where you are now to where you want to be. However, we, your demanding society, will forever be asking you to declare what will you be when you grow up. What we really mean to ask is, “How can we support you to be your best self now and at every point in your future?”
” Join in. Marianne Klancke is a certified professional coach and group development facilitator. What are your coaching questions or communication concerns? She welcomes any comments firstname.lastname@example.org.